Jan 28, 2020
Thordis Elva is an Icelandic
playwright, speaker, and author who embraces the power of her voice
and uses it to advocate for women’s rights and gender equality.
This week, she joins the Inner Circle to share the incident of
sexual abuse that impacted her life and forever changed the course
of her life. She talks about contacting her abuser, and why it’s
important to demystify who is capable of the act, and how she
alleviated her own shame and blame by sharing her truth. Thordis
also talks about the powerful TED Talk between herself and Tom,
watched by over 5 million people, as well as her book
Forgiveness, and her
superpower of having an “army of light” behind
What You’ll Hear in This Episode:
is no such thing as an unworthy story, or someone unworthy of
sharing their own. It is what makes us connect with ourselves and
- Thordis has dedicated her career to gender
equality and helping women realize they don’t need to take the
blame and shame from gender-based violence.
- Thordis details how she was exploited at 16
years old, and really what a profound impact it had on
- Sexual abusers are seen to be mythical inhuman
monsters, but really it’s far more common to be violated by someone
that you know and trust.
- Thordis reconnected with Tom because she wanted
to know “why” and also see how it had marked his life. He also felt
the consequences of his actions and wanted to share his story as
well so it could be prevented and avoided.
- Thordis recognizes her privilege of being able
to share her experience. Many women are in different situations and
can’t say anything for fear of being hurt or killed.
it was like when they met up in person, and literally faced their
truth once and for all.
- Thordis and Tom took their conversation of 7+
years to the next level with a TED Talk, “Our
story of rape and reconciliation” and their book South of Forgiveness.
- Thordis found her Army of Light that gave her
strength and carried her through a time where she had an extremely
slim chance of giving birth to her twins.
- Whether it’s speaking to the UN or a conference
of thousands, Thordis puts the emphasis on sharing her truth and
threading humanity together by illuminating our faith and belief in
- “Every single person on this earth has a story
needed to unload the blame and the shame.”
internet has the capacity to bring out the worst in people, but it
can certainly bring out the very, very best.”
you cling to hope, incredible things can happen.”
Our story of rape and
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